He didn’t get a real partner either. Not because either of you failed, but because you were both given roles instead of a relationship. And when two roles collide, even love starts to feel like distance.

By Lois Spence, MS, LMHC You did not wake up one day and decide to disappear. It happened slowly. In the small moments nobody sees. In the space between what you actually needed and what you gave instead. You said “it’s fine, I’ll handle it” when it wasn’t fine and you didn’t want to handle it. You told yourself it wasn’t worth making a big deal over. You read the room before you even put your bag down. You managed the mood, absorbed the tension, kept the peace. You did it so