The Journal

Reflections on boundaries, burnout, midlife, relationships, and what it takes to stop performing and start living.

Healing Old Patterns

Reflections on childhood roles, generational expectations, people-pleasing, perfectionism, emotional responsibility, and the survival strategies that once made sense but may no longer fit the life you want to live.

The Agreement Didn’t Start With You

Your mother never told you to disappear. She told you to be helpful. Nobody in that kitchen knew those were the same instruction. The patterns you carry did not start with you, and understanding where they came from may be the first step toward changing what gets passed on.

Lois Spence

Aug 285 min read